In the last article we talked about what learned helplessness is. Below is a list of questions to help you determine if you have this condition. Answer “yes” if the statement is close to you, or “no” if what is said does not sound like you. I cannot take action because the conditions are not ideal. Any difficulty means that I need to stop struggling. I trust that others will figure it out on their own , how can I help. I feel at a dead end. Troubles must be endured, our life is suffering. Perhaps something will change on its own, without my participation. I cannot influence the situation and events in any way. Change is not my thing. I I feel constantly tired of life. If I don’t agree with someone, I won’t defend my point of view. I often find myself in hopeless situations. I’m not satisfied with my salary, career, family, but I don’t see what can be changed for the better. I can’t assign responsible tasks. I have no talents. All my attempts to change something always end in failure. Probably, you have to be special to change something for the better. I’m not like that. Contests and competitions are not my thing. I’m not looking for easy ways, it’s just too difficult to solve my problems. I don’t see the point in improving myself, it won’t do anything anyway. Other people are smarter, stronger, more successful and talented than me. Others they just live better lives. I'm a loser. I don't think well. Without people close to me, it will be difficult for me. I don't cope well with problems and tasks. Other people cope much better with everything. I will never succeed in anything. Every answer "yes" is 1 point. “No” – 0 points. If you answered yes to most of them, then this is a reason to think - most likely, learned helplessness is taking place in your life. How to cope with learned helplessness? It is not easy to get out of this state on your own. At a minimum, because real action is needed to break the vicious circle. And we need recognition of the problem. A person with learned helplessness is accustomed to the fact that there are never solutions and he can only endure. Relatives or a specialist can help you take a healthy look at the situation, see resources and opportunities. Often, however, such attempts stumble over passive aggression and resistance, which are based on anxiety, fear of change, fear of the unknown (and the situation of struggle and decision-making for such a person is unknown). Work with learned helplessness goes through a series of stages. Which ones exactly? negative circumstances have to be “endured”, which of these brings the greatest discomfort? If you tried to cope with these circumstances, what could prevent you or is already hindering you? What objective evidence is there that all attempts are useless? Perhaps there is evidence to the contrary? Examples?If you try to cope with a situation and fail, what will happen? What if the attempt is successful? Behavioral experiment - here it is important that the attempt is sincere and real, and not “quasi”. Analysis of results. Have the negative and positive forecasts come true? What could be improved? This scheme will most likely have to be repeated more than once. And this is normal - it also takes time to form and consolidate a new way of thinking. And here the support of loved ones and a specialist can be very valuable, which will help you see mistakes and not give up. Thank you for your attention! To keep track of publications, subscribe to my page. Find out more here. Contact - WhatsApp +79062870762 or Telegram @tiny_net.