Many people believe that when a showdown begins in a couple, it means “something has broken” and it’s better to break up. The very phrase “sorting things out” seems to have a negative connotation. This is also why some people are afraid to tell their partner if something in the interaction does not suit them. However, there is nothing terrible in such clarifications. In my opinion, the answer to the question of whether it’s worth sorting out the relationship or whether it’s time to leave depends on what we ourselves want and what our partner wants. If this relationship is important to us, and our partner doesn’t give a damn about our feelings, then we’ll figure it out, I think it makes sense. It happens that we are very hurt, or boiling, and the partner shows that he cares, that he would like to understand what is happening. Then, if we are able, it seems to me that it’s worth talking about it. If a situation that categorically does not suit us repeats itself over and over again, and the partner does not consider it important, then there is probably no need to find out anything, and it is better to break up. We all have a limit to what we are willing and able to handle. It happens that it seems important to our partner, but it has become unbearable for us, and we don’t feel we have the resources to figure it out and try to fix something. Then, alas, nothing can be done. The difficulty is that often in such situations we rely not on reality, but on previous traumatic experience. And then an innocent remark or action of a partner may seem like the last straw. Despite the fact that in fact the person did not mean anything like that. And in these cases, you can inadvertently destroy relationships that had good prospects. Which is a shame. Therefore, in my opinion, it is extremely important to deal with our “cockroaches” at any point in life, whether we are in a relationship or not. In order not to project others from the past onto current relationships. And further. Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship. There is no interaction that is perfectly smooth if the interaction is live, between two living people. And it is precisely the resolution of conflicts that makes relationships closer. But avoiding them, the desire to “not notice” – distances them. Therefore, if you feel a conflict brewing, the best thing, in my opinion, that can be done for the relationship is to try to sort it out. Continued topic here. The text was first published by me FB_LINK.