⠀Someone will answer - yes, you need to feel sorry for yourself. But someone will say no, because pity dampens. Both will be right, since there is harmful and useful self-pity. Useful is empathy, which allows you to accept the situation and find strength to move forward. Compassion helps you survive mental pain and accumulate resources for later life. Therefore, it is short-lived. And the feeling of self-pity from the position of the Victim is a very destructive emotion that does not lead to anything good. In this case, all efforts to do anything are reduced to zero. In some cases, a person does not even try, because... believes that nothing will work out for him. Often a person who has self-pity loses faith in himself and his strength, and ceases to fully interact with others. After all, at this moment he does not adequately perceive what is happening. Two main reasons for self-pity can be identified:⠀ A person finds himself in a situation of hopelessness and a state of powerlessness when he realizes that he is unable to do anything to change the situation.⠀ A person’s underestimation of his own strengths and possibilities.⠀But there are also simple explanations for the reasons for self-pity: physical pain, resentment, injustice, oppression, careless and impudent attitude on the part of others, humiliation, shame, melancholy, remorse, etc.⠀Self-pity is destructive for our psyche. It quietly destroys not only our health, but also our relationships with loved ones, with colleagues and with the world in general.⠀The more we feel sorry for ourselves, the more we believe in what we think about ourselves. What can help change this attitude towards myself? Well, firstly, this is the realization that now I feel sorry for myself. Because when we are not aware of our emotions, we cannot control them. As a result, they begin to control us and influence the quality of life. Secondly, this is the desire to change this pattern of behavior. Thirdly, to determine the root cause. A person often feels that there is something wrong with the world and sees the root of his problems in the people around him. Answer the questions: Why do I feel sorry for myself? What do I do when I encounter difficulties? Fourth, take responsibility for your actions. Start managing your own life. Answer the questions: What am I doing now? Who controls my life now? Can I change the situation in my favor? What actions can I take to do this right now? Figure out what is going wrong in your life and how you would like to change it. Start to develop positive thinking in yourself, enjoy your life. After all, as you know, what we think is what we feel, what we feel is what we emit, and what we emit is what we receive. And remember that self-pity is the path to depression! If you are faced with a similar problem and cannot cope on your own, then you can seek help from a specialist. Change your life and become happy!💞⠀Sign up for a psychological consultation or transformation game (Box of Opportunities, My Path, My Path of Love, Debt Pit, Back to the Future) in person or via Skype by phone +7-982-482-64-79⠀If the article was useful, put “Thank you”»