When my daughter was four years old, I decided to take her to dance. Child development, you know! But my child was against such a development and strongly I didn’t want to dance fast dances with a boy who, moreover, constantly stepped on her feet. The violation of the child’s personal boundaries was obvious. After several “bringings” of the child to dances, I received a firm “no.” buying her lollipops, but the child was inexorable. But every cloud has a silver lining! In the palace of children's creativity, where I took my daughter to dance, they were recruiting adults for a ballroom dancing group. I began to study in this group with great inspiration. Our teacher was. professional (it seems he won prizes at regional competitions in sports dancing). I remember one episode for the rest of my life. There were no men in the group for all the girls of different ages - our teacher. We once practiced a dance. couple I don’t remember which one now. I only remember that the contact during the dance was tight, and I had to “follow” my partner. At first it was difficult for me. My legs were tangled, I was tense. But after a few steps I fell into the flow and... literally disappeared into the dance. He led, I followed. He turned, I changed my movement. He accelerated, and I along with him. And everything was so harmonious that even on the coach’s face one could read: “Yes, that’s it!” And a few years later I had a different experience. To practice ballroom dancing, my friend and I traveled to another city (!) The group was large, and I had a partner. So the sensations from the pair dance were completely different. My partner was just as “raw” as I was, so it was impossible to be in the flow. I tried hard not to make mistakes and tension was “my everything.” I controlled myself, my partner, and even the way I looked during this “disgrace”) The partner carefully performed the steps, not paying any attention to my attempts to keep everything under control. The couple didn’t happen, it didn’t work out. By the way, if Krylov could have seen our couple, he would have written another fable: “When there is no agreement in the dance...”) And you can also see about this in the American film “Only Girls in Jazz” ": - “Daphne, you are leading again!”) Then I could compare the sensations of dancing with a master and with an amateur. Then I realized that you need to dance with those who are more talented and experienced. That experience helped me understand if you are strong from nature and you have demonstrated leadership qualities, then you need to connect your life with a man who is in some ways stronger than you. Then your couple dance will happen and he will lead you. If not, then you will have to lead your partner. You probably already know what it’s like... Thank you for your thanks for what you say by clicking on the “thank you” icon with a raised finger! Your psychologist, Olga Fedoseeva If it’s difficult for you to walk the path to what you want alone, I invite you to work together ! You can sign up for a consultation by phone: 8-921-436-87-03 W/V Training course for women prone to emotional dependence “I am free”"