From the author: Advice for parents Many parents may hear from their child that he has bullies at school, in the yard or in the section. What to do? How to help him? First of all, adults discuss this problem with the teacher, and he confirms the existence of conflicts between children: the child is not given a pass, he is distracted in every possible way during classes. It seems that he does not give a reason to his offenders, does not react to them, does not look in their direction when they try to get him emotional - and all the same. Usually the next step is a serious conversation with the parents of the offenders, there are cases when they communicate specifically with these children. At first, after the measures have been taken, the child comes home happy and tells his mom and dad that no one is insulting him anymore. After a while, he is being insulted again. Then parents give a lot of advice to their child on how to overcome conflicts and stand up for themselves, but this doesn’t always work out. Is it really possible to go back to school and talk to everyone? How to get out of this vicious circle? Sometimes adults don’t notice what kind of child they really have: they see him at home as cheerful, kind, caring, smart, proactive - but how does he behave at school without parents? Parents, of course, ask the child how things are, but in order not to upset them, he will answer that everything is fine, and there are friends, there are many of them, etc. Time does not stand still, and the child develops his own behavior, to which he is used to. Even if he decides to change himself at an older age, he will have to face many obstacles. The most important obstacle may be the attitude of surrounding peers. They will immediately notice changes in their classmate, and not everyone will be able to react correctly to his changes. Let's say he came to school in bright clothes, not the same as usual - of course, they will comment on his appearance. But will he like such close attention to himself? The main reason that a child is offended is low self-confidence, which makes him look like a “victim” to others. Children feel that there is a “victim” among them and want to attack her. Attempts by parents to transfer a child to another school or class can only lead to negative consequences - the child will have to undergo adaptation, and this is not easy. And it will be a rare case that he will not be offended in the new team. And then the child will simply stop saying anything to his parents so that they no longer expose him to new stress, he may withdraw into himself. Don’t be afraid to contact a child psychologist! It happens that after just 2-3 sessions he will help your child become self-confident.