The topic of personal growth and personal effectiveness is of interest to a huge number of people who want to become successful and happy. These are active, purposeful and inquisitive people who have achieved significant results in life and strive for new goals and heights. However, sooner or later a person faces problems that, at best, hinder further development and movement forward, and at worst, plunge a person into deep states of apathy or depression, when it seems that the world is collapsing and nothing good will ever happen in life. And man , realizing that the reason lies somewhere inside, in the soul or in the head, looks for an opportunity to solve the problem using psychological methods and methods, studies information on the issue of interest, reads books on the topic of his problem. When a person realizes that he cannot cope on his own, he turns to a psychologist with the hope of finally solving his problem and makes an appointment. What happens next? And then it happens that the person begins to experience internal “confusion and vacillation” - a head-on collision occurs in the face of positive motivation associated with the desire to solve the problem, and negative motivation, which actualizes the “pain point” of the problem and provokes self-justification. And the person explains to himself why it is better to postpone the visit or not go to a professional at all. Here are several examples of such self-justifications: I want to solve the problem, but now I don’t have the time. I want to solve the problem, but I don’t have the money. I want to solve the problem, but I won’t do it yet study, maybe someday later... I want to solve the problem, but what if it doesn’t work, like other methods that I have already tried. I want to solve the problem, what if they deceive me, scam me out of money, but there’s no point will be. I want to solve the problem, but I can’t trust anyone, I’d better leave everything as it is. I want to solve the problem, but maybe everything will somehow resolve itself, because I somehow lived without it. Etc. etc. Look again at these contradictions. Do you think you can increase your personal effectiveness and improve your life with such attitudes? The answer lies on the surface and is absolutely obvious. But the reasons for the internal conflicts that tear you apart are by no means so easy to discover on your own. And even if you realize the possible cause of your problems, you will not know what to do with it, how to get rid of it and free yourself from its influence. Can you imagine that the panicky fear of old age and the thought that life at 40 years will finally and irrevocably end, have their roots at the age of five, when a little girl takes another delicious mother’s pie and hears her warning: “Don’t eat, otherwise you will be fat and ugly.” But did it even occur to you that the constant lack of money and any attempts to earn more in today’s life do not lead to results because once upon a time, as a four-year-old child, a person experienced a deep childhood resentment towards his parents for refusing to buy a very desirable toy and decided for himself: “Well, okay, so be it, and I don’t need anything!” These examples are taken from real personal stories of my clients, and they illustrate the fact that the causes of today’s problems lie on a completely different plane than their consequences. Individual psychological work with a professional not only allows you to discover the roots of problems of ineffective behavior and personal imbalance, as well as work through internal conflicts, free yourself from the negative influence of limiting beliefs, discover a powerful source of your own internal resources and create internal personal consistency. Of course, you decide how you will live. Either you continue to struggle with your inner conflicts alone, or you take a bold step and accept the support of a professional.