"What do you think, will the ex-girlfriend get in touch after the breakup? After all, she left me herself..." - One of the most popular questions (after: “is there chance to return?") which they ask me when they describe their situation. It is quite difficult to immediately give an exact answer to this question... After all, you need to take into account; how the relationship was built, how the separation process went, and you also need to pay attention to the girl’s psychotype. Let me tell you with two examples; in one situation the ex may get in touch, and in another situation the likelihood of getting in touch will be minimal.. Situation 1. Comfortable relationship - environmentally friendly separation In a relationship for quite a long time, the man occupied a strong position - he was the dominant. He covered all the needs of his beloved: he paid attention, gave emotions, supported, respected. But at some point, routine life began in their relationship, scandals became frequent out of the blue and the man lost his significance. The girl intuitively begins to move away from him, feelings fade away and she no longer sees any prospects in this relationship. There is only one thing left - to put an end to the fading relationship, so as not to torment anyone anymore... Next comes the process of separation. A man accepts her decision with dignity, does not impose himself, does not fall face down and does not become a doormat. After breaking up, he disappears from view and gives her time and the opportunity to understand herself. The likelihood of her ex getting in touch is quite high. The man behaved with dignity both in the relationship and in the process of separation. And there are no prerequisites to hate him, to feel anger or resentment towards him. He simply gave the girl what she wanted - freedom. The girl will definitely appreciate this and at least she will want to communicate with her ex in a friendly format. Therefore, she can get in touch with him. Situation 2. Uncomfortable relationship - toxic breakup. Surely in the relationship for some time the man was also in the position of leader, his value was high and the girl had strong feelings for him. But at the same time, he allowed himself to make banal mistakes, frequent scandals, and also did not completely cover the girl’s needs: lack of attention, emotions, routine life, and even possibly led a riotous lifestyle. The girl gets tired of all this and decides to end the relationship. The man, on the other hand, accepts the fact of her leaving cannot, for a long time he begins to humiliate himself in front of her (giving flowers, gifts), tries to logically convince her that he can change, does not even allow her to be alone for a day. All this causes strong negativity towards him. The likelihood of his ex getting in touch is extremely low or non-existent. The man in the relationship made a bunch of mistakes, thereby creating an opinion of himself as unsuitable for a relationship. Of course, a girl will not want to return to such a man and it will be easier for her to forget him and find another. Ask yourself: “where should she return? What kind of relationship?” Having answered this question, you yourself will understand everything, and hopes for a total disregard for the meaning No. In this situation, he will not give much. In what situations is the likelihood of contacting your ex extremely low? Abusive and gaslighting relationships. As a rule, girls run away from such men and will never come back. If you had this kind of relationship, then you need to rework yourself, otherwise you will lose the next relationship. The scenario will repeat - the pattern of behavior from one relationship will be superimposed on the next. Repeated separation. Once upon a time you were wildly lucky, after a separation, after some time That's when the girl came back to you. But, you missed her again - she left a second time. As a rule, a third chance is no longer given, most likely she will no longer want to communicate with you. There is no point in waiting for her to get in touch. Is it possible to increase the chances? Yes, you can, even if you had an uncomfortable relationship, close to a toxic one, try to at least break up as environmentally friendly as possible. This will increase at least some chances of further comfortable communication between you. Many)