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Does it happen that you cannot make a decision? Which job to choose? Where to take courses? Stay or divorce? Who to marry? It is interesting that the choice can be: from equally attractive options or from equally unattractive options. Most often we choose from 2 options, although there may be more. Moreover, if you think about it, the third or fourth option turns out to be worse than the first two, but there are also situations when there are really 3 or more attractive options. First: how to determine whether we are choosing from attractive or unattractive options? This is not always obvious, it seems that this option has advantages and this option has advantages. But, if we really choose from attractive options, then there are no obvious disadvantages. We are satisfied with both one and the other option. If there were no second option, we would easily make a decision. For example, they offer 2 options for work: in the first option, it is closer to home and the team seems to be friendly; in the second option they promise career growth and a cool office. If we are satisfied with all other aspects of both vacancies (responsibilities, salary, schedule, etc.), we still rush around and cannot make a decision. Why? Because we start thinking about hypothetically missed opportunities. It’s important, these are only hypothetical possibilities, we don’t know whether you will really be promoted at that job, whether the team will be friendly, but we are worried that we might make a mistake. What to do? Make any decision! Remember, you are choosing from equally attractive options and whatever decision you make will be the right one. Focus on the benefits of the option you chose, rather than on the hypothetical advantages of the unchosen option. What to do if the choice is between 2 unattractive options? Let's figure out what these options might be. For example, a love triangle - stay with your partner, or go to a new one ?Leave a job you don’t like and look for something new, while losing quality of life? Agree to an open relationship with a man or lose him? If any of these options becomes attractive (there are obvious advantages, no or few disadvantages), then we choose it. But if we continue to stay where we are uncomfortable, then the second option is also not attractive. What to do in this case? The obvious solution is to find a third option. If these options are unattractive, you need to find and create for yourself an option that will suit you. Allow yourself not to make a decision now. It seems that we cannot continue further and something needs to be decided, but we can allow ourselves not to make this decision now. It takes a lot of energy to think about a decision. Agree with yourself that you will not make this decision now, direct your energy to something else. Realize the cost of change. Sometimes the cost of a solution seems high, and sometimes it really is. Why do people stay in relationships that don't suit them for years? Because they think that without this relationship it will be worse. Perhaps this is true, perhaps not. Write down all the disadvantages and risks of such a decision. Is this price really that high? In a situation of choice between equally unattractive options, there is no simple decision, but the more we realize, the easier it is to make this decision. If you need help choosing or making a decision - sign up for a consultation with me by phone +79216549243 (Telegram, WhatsApp)