A hand-accustomed child is a child who is in the arms of his mother. This is natural and adequate, especially for children in the first year of life. Without fanaticism and anxiety on the part of the mother. With the understanding that after some time the child will have to master the space outside the mother’s hands. Be willing to let your baby go into this exploration of the world. Come to the rescue at any moment to pick up your researcher again in your arms, creating a safe haven for him, where his fears, anxieties, and fright will “calm down” and calm down. And he will again feel calm and self-confident to return to his sandbox and continue making Easter cakes or building a tower of cubes or looking at a yellow dandelion with interest and enthusiasm. What are the consequences in the development of such children? These children develop a sense of emotional security and inner peace (remember Panda from the cartoon “Kung Fu Panda-2”, who learned this very condition?) They form their own resources to overcome stressful situations. They have good resistance to stress. These children are able to overcome their own fear and helplessness. Stable cognitive motivation: “I want to know everything,” “I’m interested.” As a result, successful studies at school. Intellectual abilities and speech are sufficiently developed (or high). They have the ability to establish friendly relationships, it is easy to interact with them. In conflict situations they rarely show aggression. Communication with parents is built on understanding and genuine emotional closeness. They have the ability empathize, show sensitivity to the Other, interest. What are the consequences in the development of children who have had a deficit in “hand training” from birth? Reduced stress resistance, less tolerant of mental stress. Such children experience emotional “consequences” of their parents’ divorce, moving, separation, loss. Characterized by isolation , being alone. Problems with independence. Have difficulty asking someone for help. They experience difficulties in self-realization. The desire to communicate with peers is weak. Relationships with parents are conflictual or built on a misunderstanding of each other. Emotional ties with parents are weakened. Academic motivation and intellectual abilities are reduced. As a result, problems at school. They may experience increased anxiety and fear. Characterized by psychosomatics and addictions. I believe that a certain understanding of the significance and value of a child being held in the arms of a parent, especially a mother, is indicated by this series of articles. Of course, this is a topic about attachment, its formation and violations, revealed by the English psychiatrist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby and the German psychoanalyst and psychotherapist Karl Brisch. I invite you to think about this topic, here in the comments.