In practice, I come across cases when girls choose a university, guided by the command of their parents, or enroll where they can get on a budget, although they dreamed of another profession. I’m not writing about guys; their choices include relationships with the army. I’m now talking about those girls for whom their field of activity is really very important, while their aptitudes and abilities for the profession are also present. Of course, there are individual difficult situations when there is no choice, then you can only rely on the fact that a better time will come in the future to make your dream come true. But I also see cases of sacrificing one’s future out of fear of parents or fear of upsetting them. Sometimes a girl does not realize the true reason for her sacrifice, saying that she simply cannot bother her parents with paying for her studies, but upon closer examination it turns out that there is an option to earn money on her own and enroll in the evening department, or, after working for a couple of years, save up the amount needed for training. This is where the arguments come to light: “my parents will be upset that I dropped out of school,” “they will be furious that I chose a different direction.” And here we should mention the request with which they came to the psychologist: psychosomatics, depression, unwillingness to live . Symptoms that appeared soon after the start of school, screaming that these people are not living their lives, that inside there is a lot of resentment towards parents that is forbidden to express, a lot of fear of being rejected and punished, a lot of responsibility taken on themselves for their feelings other adults. Once upon a time, these girls were taught to be obedient, to please their parents, to endure, to sacrifice their interests in order to be positively assessed and receive attention. They were once punished with pain, humiliation or alienation for contradiction. On one side of the scale was their own happy life, on the other - the satisfaction of their parents. Before making your choice, it can be useful to consult with a psychologist in order to better understand what exactly you are guided by and why.