Are you yelling at your child? If you are yelling at your child, then you need to understand why you are doing it and why you shouldn’t do it. First of all, you need to identify the reasons for your yelling at your child. Which of these reasons is yours? Habit of screaming. You have transferred your parents' behavior pattern into your family. Perhaps your parents often yelled at you as a child, and it was customary in your family to communicate this way. Physical, emotional reasons for screaming. You lack strength, you are irritated, you feel tired, aggressive, and you are unable to control your emotions. You do not have the resources to cope with your child's behavior. You think that there is no other way with your child. He doesn't hear you when you speak in a calm voice, and you think he only understands screaming. You don’t know how to communicate differently with your child, how to increase self-respect and draw attention to yourself. Why can’t you yell at your child? You teach your child to do the same. You will automatically pass this pattern of behavior on to your child and instill in him a bad culture of disrespectful communication in the family. That is, when he is irritated, he will also scream. A family is built on respect - on the ability to hear and see another person. If you instill in your child the following behavior patterns: yelling, lack of respect and violence, then the likelihood that he will be able to maintain strong, friendly relationships in his future family will be low. By shouting you humiliate the child. When you yell at your child, you are first of all humiliating yourself, because an adult is a person who is able to control his emotions. You create a feeling of support and reliability in your child only when he understands that you can act more wisely, behave differently in comparison with him. If a child screams and you start screaming, then you become on the same level with the child and lose respect in his eyes. In this case, all moral teachings and conversations become meaningless. If a child sees how you can calmly survive a negative situation, explain, defend your position, then he will be inclined to hear and listen to you more. And then your respect for yourself and your child’s respect for you will only grow! By shouting you humiliate your child. He loses his sense of self-worth. If a parent yells at a child, the child begins to believe that this kind of communication with him is the norm. And as a result, he begins to allow other people to also communicate with him in this way. Yelling doesn't solve anything. Shouting can only achieve short-term results; the situation will repeat itself after some time. You need to sincerely ask yourself the question: why am I screaming, what result do I want to achieve? Your task as a parent is to reinforce the necessary model of behavior in children, since there will be many more similar situations. The only thing you solve by shouting is getting rid of your negative emotions and transferring them to the child, who at this moment has no choice but to shut up. As a result, the child becomes more and more insecure. Or another outcome - the child may start yelling at other children and adults. How to learn not to yell? You need to honestly say to yourself: “Indeed, I yell at my child very often, and I don’t like it... and I want to change something ...and this is important to me..., from today I have the opportunity to do something differently...” Find an alternative to your behavior. Very often you can’t cope because you don’t know how to act differently? You can say to a teenage child: “I’m not ready to communicate with you in this tone. I understand your emotions, I see that you are tired and irritated. I understand that you had a difficult day... you had exams... perhaps there was a conflict with your classmates... and I’m ready to listen to you if you want, but please don’t communicate with me in that tone.” If the child is small, then switch from your state to the child, take him in your arms, press him to!