“No matter what happens during the day, go to bed naked” (Nastya’s grandmother))) While examining the topic of Aggression in a couple today, I came to a disappointing conclusion for myself: we/I do not know how to competently express aggression. It’s a mystery to me - how to express my anger in such a way as not to destroy everything. Apparently in childhood I was told on my snub nose: to be angry, to be angry is an attack. And I’m not the only one. What are we left with in the end? With resentment, suppressed aggression, dissatisfaction, which leads to a decrease in sexual desire for a partner. When we yell or they shout at us: “I’m sick of everything!!!! Tired of everything!!!! I love you, Duru!!!” - without getting too personal, of course))). So, at such moments we read the adequacy of the reaction: intonation-text-facial expressions-gestures-actions... And after, having yelled and calmed down, we can talk about the topic: what exactly bothered you, and this happened right now, and what you felt earlier? Do you really love? Even though she’s a fool?))) I’m tired - how’s that? And what can we do together so that we don’t get sick and tired of this anymore, but about love for a fool - let it remain... Well, something like that. While talking, a vector of intimacy is formed, strengthened, and intensified in a couple: namely, what holds a couple together: the ability to listen and hear, understand, accept, trust, security... The ability to engage in dialogue and compromise, that is what the relationship will live on and develop for many, many years))) If we went into guerrilla warfare: we didn’t speak up, we swallowed it, we harbored a grudge, we became angry - over time, this “valuable” baggage will extinguish sexual interest and desire for a partner and you will be able to give up on getting this pleasant experience of intimacy and pleasures. Violence - when one person in a couple forces the other to do something that he does not want to do. Forces you physically or mentally. How? Manipulation and blackmail, guilt, if we are talking about psychological and moral violence. For example: “If you go out with your friends, I won’t talk to you. You’re ruining everything. Tell me what to do and what not to do (additionally shifting responsibility). I won’t give you money if you... I won’t be with have sex with you... This is a sure and reliable path to separation. When a “mutiny on the ship” happens, it is impossible to be under constant pressure (if you are not a masochist))). to a friend of interest-desire-attraction...they voluntarily refuse orgasm in order to punish their partner. It’s stupid, of course, but it is so. And returning to the words of your grandmother...Hugging the person you have chosen, with whom you share food, shelter and. bed, leave all the grievances at the door. Be like children. Clean and naked. Enjoy your partner and the opportunity to give him pleasure. Concentrate on yourself, your feelings, yes - be selfish))) As our teacher said today: sex is about it. simply a natural physical act that a person endows with his “cockroaches” and projections, roughly speaking - shit. Thanks to this ability of people, sexology appeared. Warm hugs, frank likes and dislikes and... Pleasure