From the author: The article was published on the blog 08/01/12 Do you want to become an ideal woman? “Of course, who doesn’t want to!” - you may answer. What is the ideal woman like? Ideal appearance , ideal figure. Always well-groomed, friendly, gentle. Everything is in order with her, home, work, husband, child. Everything is cleaned and ironed. An ideal woman has an ideal husband and children. Have you personally ever met one in your life? Me not. Although once upon a time, I myself really strived for this. The desire for the ideal is the desire to control everything that happens around. And since this is simply impossible, such behavior leads a woman to neurosis. As a result, dissatisfaction with life, chronic fatigue and depression are guaranteed for many years. Our women are raised in such a way that they are responsible for everything. This is not their fault. This behavior is passed on from generation to generation. As a result, she is responsible for her husband, children and everyone who and what surrounds her. And in the concept of the “ideal woman” that we are accustomed to perceiving, instead of a truly “ideal” woman, we see a “draft horse” who needs to do everything and look perfect. Sometimes some women still succeed, but that’s why they are happy -they don’t feel themselves. Because to the nth number of children another one is added, whose name is Husband. By crossing some reasonable line of caring, we ourselves contribute to this. And men have nothing against it. After all, it’s so nice when everything is perfect at home, and they don’t want to take responsibility on their own initiative. And if you treat your man as unable to take care of himself, you feed this with energy and strengthen his behavior. By taking on everything, you deprive a man of the opportunity to show his masculine qualities, and he has no choice but to remain an “infantile”, minor child. And you deprive yourself of the opportunity to be light, spontaneous and joyful. After all, responsibility is a masculine quality. Start gradually returning responsibility to your man, first of all for himself, and then for the family. Just don’t do it abruptly if you want this to really happen. Remember that restructuring anything is a process. And the process takes time. Restructuring relationships is a delicate matter. And fill yourself with energy like a woman, through pleasure, through “I want” and “I can,” and not through a violent “must.” Don’t strive to be perfect in everything. You are a Woman, not a draft horse, and therefore you are already ideal and deserve the best treatment for yourself! Sincerely with you, Rezeda Buyavchi.