From the author: psychotherapist, sexologist, TV program expert, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, NLP master, educational psychologist, existential neuroprogramming specialist, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coachIt will be a small article, and the work was not difficult, since before this we had already carried out some psychotherapeutic work. My client from Moscow called me, with whom we “worked” to create conditions for marriage. She was a rather amorous girl, she was almost always in a relationship, but she never managed to get married. After our previous work, when she came to me for consultation as a psychologist, a little time passed, and now the client said that she realized that she was in some kind of dead end, which she wanted to work through in order to get out of the vicious circle, and was ready to continue moving in this direction. I, as a psychologist, sexologist, I started a consultation with her, and the first thing that came out was the fear of repeating the negative experience. And indeed, often the relationship developed to a certain level. And now, she has come to understand that she needs to let go of her old past relationships, which were the most significant in her life, so as not to “drag” this negative experience with her now. The client remembered her ex-husband, the relationship was short-lived, but quite problematic, and now she got rid of its forceful psychological effects and stress, filling it with male support and strength in the good sense of the word. The second was the fear of indifference from men. The situation was reminiscent of her teenage years, when her friends were in relationships, but the client was not. At the moment, this no longer had anything to do with her, because the client was surrounded by the constant attention of men. Next, she saw adhesive tape on which several dark dots were drawn. The positive thing was that in this case we did not have to work through every point, because we had already sorted out all these problems earlier. And now these points symbolized what had to be given away from oneself, simply as remnants of negative memories. After this, the girl said: “Wow, even my back felt somehow better,” and this is not surprising, since many of our problematic conditions, and the severity only accumulates over the years (if it is removed). Now, when I asked her about the dead end that was at the beginning of our work, the girl said that it had disappeared, and she sees a bright clearing, flooded with the sun. So Thus, the problem of “deadlock” was resolved. But I, as an experienced psychologist, will still have to work to help remove the client’s obstacles on the path to the desired state.