From the author: The article reflects some thoughts about what things should be parted with and how. Sometimes it's not as easy as it seems. There is common advice: “get it out of your head,” but is there an effective method to do this? Entire articles have been written in which they recommend getting rid of old and unnecessary things in order to start living in a new way and thereby encourage yourself to change. In a number of countries there are rituals, for example, New Year's rituals, of throwing unnecessary things out of the window. Renovating or moving is a reason to get rid of the goods accumulated over the years. The connection between getting rid of unnecessary things and starting a new life is an example of magical thinking, which is so characteristic of children. Is it really true that by throwing things away, a person opens the door to a new life? First, it’s worth understanding how the external and internal worlds are connected, and what this deliverance means, how and what a person can get rid of. A person can strive to get rid of suffering, pain , from obsessive thoughts, from boring work, from people, from excess weight, from an excessive load, and so on. We want to get rid of it when there is something that bothers us. Sometimes this is easy to do when the stimulus is external and not connected with our inner world. For example, if you are tired of flies, you can close the window, use repellent, Velcro, etc., usually in this situation, rarely does anyone feel sorry for flies. Flies are not part of the inner world, they come from outside and get on your nerves. But what about what has already become part of our Self, part of our emotional experience, part of the inner world. Sometimes a person comes across something in his closet, pantry, album, box that connects him emotionally with some pleasant events or dear ones people. And it is not always easy to separate the value of the thing itself from the value of the experiences or attitudes towards the people with whom this thing connects us. We store not so much things as our attitude. For example, a blouse that a girl wore for the first time on a date with her future husband may have been gathering dust in the closet for years. Moreover, in the event of a divorce, this same blouse is the first to go into the trash can, taking on anger and anger. Or, on the contrary, it is stored as an unconscious hope for the return of this relationship, for the fact that the thing will give romantic dreams of past love. After the death of a beloved spouse, his things or things he bought remain as something that connects him, sometimes turning into a fetish. In addition to the emotional connection of an object with a situation, a person, an experience, each of us experiences a certain relationship with the space in which we live. Some people cannot stand empty space, while others, on the contrary, feel the need for space. Worse, when there is a combination of fear of open and closed space, then raking the living space immediately leads to the fact that the person again strives to fill it, and this cycle is repeated many times. Sometimes scattering your things can mean a desire to fill as much space as possible, as if to stake it out. This desire may arise from the fact that there is a lack of personal space, which either arose with the advent of a new relationship, when you need to share your space, or is rooted in childhood experience, when the child did not have his own place or there was little of it and needed to be with someone. then share it, for example, with brothers or sisters, grandparents. Also, the desire to fill as much space as possible with your belongings may come from psychological difficulties associated with recognizing and creating your boundaries. The same reason may unconsciously lie in the gain of excess weight. For people who experience emotional hunger, things can replace relationships and feelings; buying extra clothes brings pleasure. In this sense, any deliverance without realizing why we need this thing, excess weight, a person, an obsessive thought, etc. will not be able to get rid of the internal conflict and in this place, unconsciously, sometimes automatically, something similar appears..