Cheating men often do not realize that a mistress is not a man’s toy at all! This is not the fang of a killed wolf on the neck of a primitive warrior! She has her own logic, her own interests, her own will. A mistress is a woman who, like everyone else, will one day fall in love with her married partner and begin to dream of marrying him and having a child. Hence, the paradoxical pattern: The more a cheating man invests his money in his mistress, the faster she will fall into him falls in love and the more difficult it will be for him in the future to manage her with the help of the same money. This is logical: after all, the more generous a man is to a woman, the more valuable he seems to her as a partner, the more attractive father of her unborn child. Then everything is simple: having satisfied the basic needs of his mistress (according to Maslow’s pyramid) for housing, a car, income, the man himself automatically transfers her needs to a higher, intangible, psycho-emotional plane. It’s easy to say “I don’t need anything from you!” except yourself, then, when all the most necessary things have already been received from the man. After all, if a man is generous to his mistress, then the best guarantee of long-term receipt of funds from him is not so much the obedient and submissive behavior of the girl, but the complete appropriation of this man for himself and the withdrawal him from the family. It is from here that these eternal statements of mistresses - “I don’t need your money! I need you yourself!”, which seem quite sincere, and which inexperienced cheating men fall for. Such girls play big: why waste time on trifles? Or I take a married partner for myself completely, getting the opportunity to invest my love and care in him, without fear of wasting years, and then crying about the ruined female destiny. Or, having solved my primary material problems at his expense, then I immediately abandon him, without having time to become very attached. The funds received by one partner, at the same time, increase the rating and value of the girl in the eyes of the next man, forcing him to invest more, as if raising the “entrance check” into this relationship. I translate this into simpler language: By investing large sums of money in a prestigious mistress, by proactively giving her everything himself, the cheating man allows her to play out as realistically as possible the bluff of “true pure unselfish love”, in which he ultimately believes, melts and becomes psychologically attached. Because if an ordinary mistress demands something, presses and begs, this can create psychological and financial discomfort for the cheating man, at least somehow sobering him up. A prestigious mistress is a special case! Treasuring her greatly, the man gives her everything himself. Therefore, her words that “I need anyone of you, but I’m not interested in your money” seem to be the ultimate truth. According to Stanislavsky, you want to exclaim: “I believe!” I want to hold on to such “true love, which you will never find anywhere else” with both hands, from the series: “I am difficult to find, impossible to forget and easy to lose.” It is interesting that some prestigious mistresses are so included in this sincerely in love role, that they flirt and begin to believe in the selflessness of their love. In the heat of the moment, they may suggest to their married partner that they leave all their property to their wife and children, get a divorce and start a new life with their beloved. But if a man does this, comes to his mistress with one suitcase, and then suddenly something goes wrong in his business and career, and he ceases to be wealthy, then yesterday’s “so real” girls in love gradually lose their interest in them. Either they leave on their own, or they recommend that the depressed partner return back to the family. Where it is not a fact that he will be accepted... In the practice of my work, I know many hundreds of such stories with a sad ending (in every sense of the word). Unfortunately, cheating men in love, enchanted by sweet-voiced Siren-lovers, often do not realize that that if they didn’t have a lot of money, high positions and premium cars, they would hardlywere needed by someone. After all, stories about the love of tall girls of model appearance for simple taxi drivers, loaders, plumbers, electricians, ordinary officials and novice managers are usually from the realm of fantasy. Or the creative move of screenwriters from those porn films that can also be considered fiction. It is noteworthy that some mistresses, in the euphoria of hormones, also begin to believe that they love a wealthy man not for his capabilities and resources, but just like that, “because he is a good person,” “he has powerful charisma,” “with I feel calm with him,” “I believe in him,” etc. At the same time, for some reason, without falling in love and without becoming attached to other good and charismatic people with lower incomes. In this case, the sincerity of the feelings of lovers and mistresses is tested by the difficulties of life that often arise after a man leaves the family. But, we digress. Let's return to the essence of this point: Unlike many ordinary mistresses, whose dissatisfaction with their uncertain position men easily regulate with the help of money, it is extremely difficult to silence a prestigious mistress by increasing or decreasing funding! After all, such girls have higher self-esteem and know for sure that there will definitely be enough rich men for their lifetime. Hence: The pressure of mistresses - prestigious beauties on their married gentlemen with the aim of destroying their marriage, is noticeably stronger than that of ordinary mistresses. Men do not realize this report until this is encountered. When they collide, it is already too late, since see points one and two described above. After which, if a man tries to break up with his prestigious mistress, or if she herself begins to end the relationship with him, quite naturally, it becomes incredibly painful for him. Having successfully completed the initiation of a prestigious mistress, many men cannot go through the initiation of breaking up with her. What does it look like? practice, is vividly described in another letter. "Hello Andrei! We need your help in overcoming the pain and choosing a path. Once upon a time I was young and poor, girls did not pay attention to me. I really wanted to get into the stratum of wealthy people and I deliberately began dating a classmate with a boss dad. She was short and ugly, with a quarrelsome character, but she turned out to be the golden key to the secret door to the world of money. I got married, gave birth, received an apartment in the city center and good support in my career. Fifteen years passed, her dad grew old and left big business, and I myself became a serious person. Then I decided to make my youth dream of a model girl come true. On the street I met a real beauty, young and from a poor family. What happened next was like in a movie: I put her on and off, great sex, love and a casino. I got a thrill from myself, because I had come to what I dreamed of: a lot of money and a luxurious girl nearby. The story dragged on for three years. I did not plan to get a divorce, since many assets were registered during marriage, and this is a serious loss. As a result, I missed the moment when my mistress, having become even more beautiful than I found her, met an even richer Russian dude, but living in Europe. She left for him without warning, cutting off all communication channels. She just sent me a message saying, “Thank you for these years, but I need to move on! I'm moving far away so as not to hurt you and myself. Don't look for me, forgive me and let me go. As you yourself always told me: Be happy!” And she’s nowhere else... I tossed around as if in agony. I looked for her, called out to her on all social networks and instant messengers. This collapse lasted two years. He went on a drinking binge, lost ten kilograms, got sick, seriously damaged his business, and almost went to prison. The worst thing is that in a fit of pain I told my wife about everything. She kicked me out, filed for divorce, hired lawyers, and got rid of a lot of things. The children chose their mother, they shun me. Now three years have passed. The mistress has already married and given birth in another country. My wife and her parents also moved closer to the sea. Everyone is fine, but I’m a complete mess! Little money, poor health, wife and children.