Last week we touched on the topic of choosing yourself, today I want to continue. I know that some people recognized themselves there. Many people at some point in their lives look back and notice that they are living somehow wrong, that they are not doing what they want and that it has all become a habit. This is neither good nor bad, but it happens. Why don’t we take feet in hand and don’t fly to change the situation? Instead, we begin to look for advantages in an unloved husband (he’s not that bad), in a boring job (the team is gold), or we decide that it’s better to endure something, but save energy. There are always some *hidden* benefits, because of which people find themselves in such situations. Because of which they do not choose themselves. Let's imagine what benefits a person who works in a job they don't like might have: Everything is stable, predictable, no risk He knows everyone, which means that there is no need to establish contact A normal manager, there are people in other jobs and worse... think for yourself. We’ve already got a decent list, why change anything? Why risk it? Here is a person sitting at his job, whining a little, no matter who he happens to. You can make exactly the same list for any situation that you don’t like. Write a list of “how does it benefit me to sit in this ass?” Think carefully and you will see that in this ass you don’t have to take responsibility, that in this ass it is comfortable and calm, that it is safe and much more. Yes, you are betraying your a dream to live somehow differently, for example, to do what you love and make money from it. But where is this dream? She is there, far away, and the cozy ass is here. After writing the list, ask yourself a question - Am I ready to give up these benefits for the sake of...? And if you are ready to give them up for the sake of a new experience, new acquaintances, for the pleasure of doing what you love (this is all an example with work), then refuse. At least in your head, at least on paper, take the first steps. And in order to understand how to move in resolving your situation, I invite you to a psychological game that will take place this Thursday at 19:00. Register via the link in the profile header, I’m ready to answer any questions. Share, did you find any hidden benefits??