From the author: Choosing a partner is a process uniquely determined by the primary relationship. Are boys looking for wives who look like their mothers? Yes. Let's not argue with this. Are girls looking for husbands like their dads? Alas, but no. Girls are looking for husbands who are like their mothers. Someone who will understand them better than themselves, guess their mood and desires, take care of them, stroke their back and bring them a warm drink in bed. Someone who will protect them from the outside world, who will calm them down with the right words. And in general, he will be gentle and will say a lot of the right words. Someone who will tell her which dress does not make her look fat and which shoes suit her best. Someone who will guess what to give her for the holiday, and will not ask stupid questions or offer money. Someone who would love her friends and adore her mom. Someone who will spend all evenings with her and have similar interests. Who would dream of spending the weekend just with the whole family and not being distracted by stupid men's games? Continue? And which of the following is added to the portrait of a real man? Yes, the sad thing is that dad wasn’t even there. If he was in reality and looked like a man in the usual classical sense, then you were even less lucky. The more ideal your dad was, the harder it is for you to find a good husband. Most will lose to the perfect man who was the first to kiss your arms, legs and, excuse me, butt. But dads with pronounced alpha male behavior are extremely rare these days. Usually they are in great demand and have more than one family and a bunch of offspring. And although they love their daughters more, since their sons are competitors for them, their love comes with a long list of expectations. And having fulfilled them, you become their hostage. After all, finding a man who needs the same thing from you and who will love you just as “unconditionally” is not easy. But there are such cases. Usually these women adhere to the passive female role and are happy in marriage, always giving birth to at least one boy, who will be named after guess who? Time has made some adjustments to this mechanism. Such “male” dads increasingly like women who are not like quiet housewives. Now they increasingly like active and successful, slightly aggressive bitches. In real life, such a woman is most often a mistress, about whom everyone usually knows. And it’s hard to deceive a little girl about what kind of women her dad likes and who she should be like. Guess which man would suit her as a husband? But most women grew up either with a weak father or without one. The mother, driven by the need to provide a decent living and fulfilling the responsibilities of both parties, was unable to fully give what the child expects from the mother. And unsatisfied desires do not disappear or dissolve. So, the girl grows up and continues to search for a partner who will fill the gap. Only the fact that he is not a mother does not occur to her. And she endows a man with these qualities, or rather his image, without sincerely understanding why he cannot cope with this. Then she calls him callous and cold, and becomes confused about what qualities her chosen one should have. Should he be courageous or caring? In the first case, care is expressed in actions, this is the masculine way, and in the second - everything listed at the beginning of the article. Confused in the testimony, a normal woman will do only one thing - she will accuse you of not wanting to understand her and cry. Deep down, she will hope that her partner will find the answer on his own and help her unravel, he is smart. At this moment, she picks up an invisible shovel and begins to dig a real hole for her relationship. Now take a closer look at your partner, you won’t recognize anyone?...