From the author: They say that Buddha sometimes did not answer the questions of the questioner - because he saw that a person was so full of his concepts and attitudes that there was no room for a new truth to fit in his head. Likewise, we sometimes meet people who, hearing the answer to their question, object: “You misunderstood me, that’s not what I wanted to say!” Unfortunately, even in the practice of helping, there are clients who insist on their decision, despite the fact that it has already shown its complete failure. There is a beautiful couple at the reception. - The husband does not talk to me. How to get him to talk? It turns out that the spouses have no common interests, despite their youth and beauty. And in general, I have no hobbies. To the question “what do you want to talk about”, the lady’s answer: - About everything. - So about what? - About anything! I’m talking to my friends! - What do you want to talk about with your husband? - No! I thought that this wouldn’t be the case at all! - How? - I thought you’d make him talk! using some of our own methods. ***- We have four children and one of them is facing a prison colony - he stole food from a supermarket. And this is not the first time. - How can I help? - Do psychotherapy with him. - Well, to understand what is happening and what to do, come with the whole family. - The rest of our children are normal. - I believe. I even believe that they are good. Come all together, then we can figure out how to help your difficult guy. - Do you have teenage groups? He has had problems with behavior for a long time, we contacted another psychological center and they offered him “Self-Confidence” training. - Did it help? - I don’t know, he became arrogant and is constantly rude. - That is, you acquired a second problem from “qualified” help ?- I don’t know... Do you have groups for teenagers?- You need family counseling, not games of teenage psychotherapy.- But everything is fine with us...- Children are the fruit of family and family relationships. Working only with a child is useless and, as you have seen, harmful. Come, everyone. - Can you work with him? - Yes, but to understand what to do, I need to talk to the whole family. - Is it possible only with him? - Do you seem to have family secrets? - No. Everything is fine with us all. - I'm sorry, but I work with children only after meeting the whole family. - Is it possible only with him? - You've already been through this! The result is deplorable! - But is it possible? - Since you are the person most interested in the child’s health, I suggest that the two of us work. - But everything is fine with me. Can I work with a child? - I'm sorry. But I can't help you. ***- I’m over 30 years old, but I’m still alone. How can I find a man? The lady is pleasant in appearance, but men, having met her once, disappear. I see that her communication style is active, aggressive, demanding. I ask about her father. The father is an alcoholic, but refuses to talk about him: “No, we won’t talk about him.” I approach from the side and ask about dreams. It turns out that she often has the same terrible dream: something huge and black is rushing towards her, and she wakes up in fear. I suggest exploring the dream by immersing yourself in the experience of the dream. Reaction: - No, I won't explore it. I thought you could help me... - Listen, now I feel like a man who doesn’t want to date you anymore, because your style is repulsive, - I remark as gently as possible. - Well, this is different!.. I thought Will you help me…