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THE INFLUENCE OF THE RELATIONSHIP OF MOTHER AND BABY ON THE FORMATION OF CHARACTER. The way your baby will perceive the world in the future depends on the early years of his life. The mother’s task in the first year of life is to create a completely safe and friendly environment for the baby - then the child will have a well-developed basic trust in the world and in adulthood he will be a socially adapted optimist. In the 50s, a study was conducted that examined the lack of emotional and tactile contact on the development of a child. The babies were fed, diapers changed, but not held or spoken to verbally; as a result of this cruel study, all the babies did not live past 6 months. It is important for the baby to know that adults are not dangerous, are friendly and respond to the baby’s needs. The English psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby wrote that the relationships that arise between mother and baby in the early years of his life are evolutionarily programmed for human survival. In short, we can say that according to Bowlby, the child believes that “I am the way I am treated.” His attachment theory identifies several types of attachment of a child to his mother and, as a result, the manifestation of certain traits of his character: reliable (secure) attachment, insecure attachment (it includes avoidant attachment and resistant attachment). Let's consider different types of attachments: A child with a secure attachment. The mother (or the person who cares for the child) is warm, sensitive to the child's demands, consistent, and quickly responds to the child's cries and needs). The child willingly explores the world around him, acts boldly, rarely cries, quickly makes friends in kindergarten, has good self-esteem, easily controls himself if he is upset about something, it is easy for teachers to come to an agreement with him, when placed in another family, he easily adapts to new adults, is ready build new relationships, because he knows that the world is friendly and adults will take care of him. A child with avoidant attachment. The mother is often emotionally unavailable, she does not like the child’s too much dependence, and may praise the child for his independence and ability to hide feelings. By the end of the first year, the child does not particularly strive for physical contact with his mother, but gets upset when he is left alone and may periodically show unexpected anger towards his mother. In kindergarten he can behave aggressively, gets angry, and does not listen to adults. When he leaves in pain, he does not ask for help. When placed in another family, he copes with difficulties without asking for help, which makes him appear too independent and little emotional, while adults can gradually distance themselves from the child, feeling very dissatisfied. A child with resistant (ambivalent) attachment. Mom is inconsistent, unpredictable and chaotic. Shows love for the child when she herself has a need for it, and at the same time not always exactly when the child needs it. She tends to notice the child when he is crying, and often does not notice the child’s needs when he is calm. The child cries a lot, is demanding, gets angry, has difficulty letting go of his mother, is anxious about her possible disappearance, and is limited in exploring the world around him. In kindergarten he is capricious and often very anxious, overly dependent on adults, and can become a victim who is offended. Teachers either pamper such children or get angry. When placed in a different environment, it can react strongly emotionally, become angry, thereby attracting attention to itself. It must be remembered that high-quality relationships are the key to a child’s independence and self-esteem in the future. A child who has a secure attachment to one person can subsequently form new relationships well with other adults, siblings and other children..