Continued from the articles http://www.b17.ru/article/279628/ http://www.b17.ru/article/279762/ What is the way out of betrayal? There is only one way out - for the one who has been betrayed - through forgiveness. And for the one who betrayed, this is through atonement. This is a mutual collaboration. Forgiveness is such a thing that we often understand that we should forgive the other person, but we cannot forgive. Therefore forgiveness is a deeper work than the work of the ego. Often this is an inward turning to some deeper, essential levels of oneself, from a deep experience. Because here we can only ask for forgiveness. Atonement is about admitting what you have done. Because there is a very big temptation here either to somehow forget it, or to rationalize it - to say: I couldn’t do anything differently, because he himself was like that. And here it is important to retain the experience that I have caused pain to another. And regret it. Repent of it. Here they often talk about reconciliation, but here it is not about two people, one a traitor, the other a victim, somehow reconciled with each other and began to treat each other well. Reconciliation is about accepting the very event that happened. The one who was betrayed accepts that he was betrayed, and the one who betrayed accepts that he did it. They come to terms with the fact that this happened in their lives. That each of them did it. In World Religions, the theme of betrayal sounds a lot and constantly. The Resurrection of Christ is precisely based on betrayal, on the fact that Christ was betrayed and after that he was resurrected. If the betrayal had not occurred, then the resurrection would not have occurred. Betrayal is a very important element of culture and life. Because without betrayal, no further development is possible. After all, life begins with fusion, with boundless, basic trust. And then the betrayal happens. Which this boundless basic trust destroys. And then we find ourselves in a situation of choice. How to deal with this? And as a rule, we have no support or help at this moment. Even if someone sympathizes with us. Life has invaded us, hurt us, and then we have to live with it. And then we can go through the temptation to build defenses and, in the end, creatively process this pain, so that we can then find ourselves at a new, higher level for ourselves. At the level at which we can rely more on ourselves and no longer unconditionally rely on another world and believe that we are safe, but rather that we can interact with this world. And it may turn towards us in different directions, but we have the strength to somehow face it and deal with it. This is the whole meaning of betrayal. Unless betrayal occurs, we will not become what we were supposed to become. We will remain in a childish infantile position. The situation that is happening now is destroying some of our usual ways of adapting. In this sense, life challenges us by betraying us. It is in our hands how to deal with this challenge further. Will we be able to build not in the outside world, but to build ourselves somehow in a new way. What was available to us suddenly turns out to be inaccessible and requires new searches and new discoveries from us..