From the author: If you have difficult relationships with loved ones, then there is always a way out! Conflict can be prevented! The conflict is already a dead end. Why go deeper into it? After all, we need to get out of the conflict. And there are a number of difficulties here. Different people come out of conflict in different ways. American psychologist R. Thomas developed a system for classifying individual behavior styles in an unfolding external conflict. This system includes five main styles: avoidance, accommodation, compromise, cooperation and competition. Of the listed styles, only one - cooperation - is active and effective in determining the outcome of a conflict situation. The second active style - competition - is considered the most conflicting. Avoidance and adaptation are characterized by a passive form of behavior. Compromise occupies an intermediate position, combining both active and passive forms of response. Let us consider these types of behavior of people in conflict situations more closely. Cooperation is a style aimed at resolving the contradictions underlying the conflict. A person wants to solve a problem, not figure out a relationship, and is ready to sacrifice his values ​​for the sake of achieving common goals. Competition is a style of behavior that is more characteristic of active and aggressive males who strive for self-affirmation. This is the most dangerous style, which can transform an external conflict into direct confrontation and a clash with the use of force. Compromise is a style of behavior of cautious, rationally thinking people, focused on maintaining stable social relations to the detriment of a common goal and objectives. People with this style strive to reconcile the conflicting interests of different partners with their own. The contradiction that caused the conflict, naturally, is not resolved, but is masked and temporarily driven inside with the help of partial concessions and sacrifices on the part of each participant in the conflict. Adaptation is a style focused on preserving social relations. It predominates in females, who are characterized by low self-esteem. There are both psychological defenses and complexes, which sooner or later leads to an increase in the intensity of internal conflicts and all the ensuing consequences. Avoidance is focused on maintaining the status of one’s “I.” Therefore, it usually comes down to non-recognition of the existence of an external conflict. The tactics of a subject with this style of behavior boils down to reducing the significance of the events that caused the conflict. The task is to escape, to escape from a conflict situation. Naturally, this style is not capable of resolving the contradiction underlying the conflict, since the person does not generally recognize these contradictions as really existing. This style is characteristic of people with low self-esteem and underdeveloped social intelligence. Just like others, the avoidance style gives rise to increased internal conflicts. If we talk about family relationships, then one of the most successful ways to resolve difficult life situations may be compromise, used in combination with cooperation. If one of the parties in the family constantly avoids conflict, then this only accumulates a burden of problems. Going to your room, not going on a visit together, not talking for days and weeks - such tactics actively destroy the relationship between spouses. And here it is important for the other participant to understand that both are to blame. Blaming another for a situation that is interpersonal in nature is a way to destroy relationships. You can say as much as you want that he is this and that, but she just doesn’t want to understand anything at all. This won't make it any easier. The path of negotiations, compromise, when both sides sort things out, is the only path to a truce. As they wrote on posters from the times of the USSR, “Peace to the world”!».